Archive for June, 2012

Fear.  Fear of the unknown.  How many times do we have someone contact us, interested in improving their situation, the solution is presented to them… and they choose instead to wait?

Fear. Fear of the unknown.

Even when the facts are laid out, the option of pain and discomfort can be replaced with safety, security and peace of mind… but when Fear is present, paralysis isn’t far behind.

I try to help my clients be objective, which can be difficult with life changing decisions. Even when someone says “it’s all about the numbers”, I can tell you from having helped hundreds of families, after it’s all said and done, it’s those things that can’t be measured with a decimal point or a dollar sign have the greatest impact – safety, security and peace of mind. So simple, why do we shy away? Is it something in our makeup that has us programmed to try to maximize every opportunity? Are we still being measured by some unseen teacher or supervisor where the outcome has to be optimized, or we don’t move at all?

Fear. Fear of the unknown.

For so many today, the information world that surrounds us does little to bring the benefits one might imagine. News is so instant, so broad… we feel a tragedy from some distant corner of the country or globe as if it were right next door… the path of war seems to be almost at our doorstep daily… wildfires… a lost child… And then there is the market, stocks go up, stocks go down, we know we haven’t lost a dime until we go to cash out but oh how that ticker can color our mood with overtones that reach into our very psyche.

Let us pause and realize that life isn’t what we see printed on a balance sheet, life isn’t the sum of every issue from every corner… life is here, right now, it’s very real, and we have a choice.

Fear. Fear can be overcome. Simply. Easily. By education. By action. By knowing that we’re never going to be perfect, nor do we need to be.

Safety, security, peace of mind…  yes, it’s that simple.


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